What's your relationship status? (Relationship support thread)

[Fish Cakes]

But don't keep trying.

Thanks, Destroyah.

[Manuelito Canelito]

Single.

I'm asexual, so I really don't have that much level of interest to begin with. And while I have felt attraction (even had a short living relationship once) I really don't think I'll ever settle down with someone, especially since I don't want to dissapoint a possible partner if they want to advance the relationship to points I wouldn't be comfortable with

[Destoroyah of Worlds]

But don't keep trying.

Thanks, Destroyah.

<3

Single.

I'm asexual, so I really don't have that much level of interest to begin with. And while I have felt attraction (even had a short living relationship once) I really don't think I'll ever settle down with someone, especially since I don't want to dissapoint a possible partner if they want to advance the relationship to points I wouldn't be comfortable with

I'm asexual too. Sex isn't very pleasurable for me and is something i kind of "tolerate" when i can tell my partner is in the mood. The most intimate and romantic moments for me are when i cuddle or give big long hugs. That's when i feel loved the most.

Are you aromantic?

[GodzillaFreak99]

I'm currently single. I thought I use to have a massive crush on this girl back in high school. Unfortunately, she made it clear that she didn't share my feelings. Now, I got the message, but for whatever reason she still felt the need to remind me several times afterward for whatever reason. (much to my irritation) We did remain friends for a long time after that however but, hse hardly ever bothered to contact me and would rarely return my calls.

One day, she called me out of the blue and during our conversation, the topic of my feelings for her came up, and...shockingly she said she felt the same. She even came to my current home town and we went out to eat together. Then...I didn't hear back from her in over a year...A YEAR?! Not for lack of me trying to contact her either. So then, she calls me again out of the blew, and during our conversation, she said that she only liked me as a friend. I mean...it's like, Woman! Will you make up your damn mind?! (I didn't say that to her face however) It was at that point that I realized she just wasn't good for, and I cut her out of my life.

So yeah...uhh...There ya go.

[Fish Cakes]

I'm currently single. I thought I use to have a massive crush on this girl back in high school. Unfortunately, she made it clear that she didn't share my feelings. Now, I got the message, but for whatever reason she still felt the need to remind me several times afterward for whatever reason. (much to my irritation) We did remain friends for a long time after that however but, hse hardly ever bothered to contact me and would rarely return my calls.

One day, she called me out of the blue and during our conversation, the topic of my feelings for her came up, and...shockingly she said she felt the same. She even came to my current home town and we went out to eat together. Then...I didn't hear back from her in over a year...A YEAR?! Not for lack of me trying to contact her either. So then, she calls me again out of the blew, and during our conversation, she said that she only liked me as a friend. I mean...it's like, Woman! Will you make up your damn mind?! (I didn't say that to her face however) It was at that point that I realized she just wasn't good for, and I cut her out of my life.

So yeah...uhh...There ya go.

She was having boyfriend issues and using you as a fallback/comfort. Trust me.

Weird how many other ace people there are here? Still unsure I'm probably sex-positive. Definitely not aromantic which kills me.

[GodzillaFreak99]

I'm currently single. I thought I use to have a massive crush on this girl back in high school. Unfortunately, she made it clear that she didn't share my feelings. Now, I got the message, but for whatever reason she still felt the need to remind me several times afterward for whatever reason. (much to my irritation) We did remain friends for a long time after that however but, hse hardly ever bothered to contact me and would rarely return my calls.

One day, she called me out of the blue and during our conversation, the topic of my feelings for her came up, and...shockingly she said she felt the same. She even came to my current home town and we went out to eat together. Then...I didn't hear back from her in over a year...A YEAR?! Not for lack of me trying to contact her either. So then, she calls me again out of the blew, and during our conversation, she said that she only liked me as a friend. I mean...it's like, Woman! Will you make up your damn mind?! (I didn't say that to her face however) It was at that point that I realized she just wasn't good for, and I cut her out of my life.

So yeah...uhh...There ya go.

She was having boyfriend issues and using you as a fallback/comfort. Trust me.

Possibly. To be fair, she did have some issues she was dealing with (much as we all do) but what she did still hurt me pretty badly.

[Destoroyah of Worlds]

I'm currently single. I thought I use to have a massive crush on this girl back in high school. Unfortunately, she made it clear that she didn't share my feelings. Now, I got the message, but for whatever reason she still felt the need to remind me several times afterward for whatever reason. (much to my irritation) We did remain friends for a long time after that however but, hse hardly ever bothered to contact me and would rarely return my calls.

One day, she called me out of the blue and during our conversation, the topic of my feelings for her came up, and...shockingly she said she felt the same. She even came to my current home town and we went out to eat together. Then...I didn't hear back from her in over a year...A YEAR?! Not for lack of me trying to contact her either. So then, she calls me again out of the blew, and during our conversation, she said that she only liked me as a friend. I mean...it's like, Woman! Will you make up your damn mind?! (I didn't say that to her face however) It was at that point that I realized she just wasn't good for, and I cut her out of my life.

So yeah...uhh...There ya go.

You did the right thing. You deserve someone better, who doesnt play games with you. I'm shocked you didn't cut her off sooner.

[Fish Cakes]

Possibly. To be fair, she did have some issues she was dealing with (much as we all do) but what she did still hurt me pretty badly.

You did the right thing. You deserve someone better, who doesnt play games with you. I'm shocked you didn't cut her off sooner.

Listen to Destoroyah, take care of yourself first, man. You can and will be used by people for therapy if you allow yourself to. Be strong, be selfish. Not everyone has your best intentions in mind even if you have theirs. I've learned this the hard way twice now, don't be like me.

[LSD Jellyfish]

Very single and not sure how I feel about it. I tend to transition from being totally asexual and independent to desperate for love and affection overnight. But after my shitty experiences with the last two people I had feelings for, I'm convinced being single for a couple years might be good for me.

Don't give up! I believe in you!

I'm also incredibly desperate for affection and stuff, my standards are so low, but even then, I can't find anyone interested for the right reasons. So many poly and hook-up are into me (and they're so cute, it destroys me) and I'm just not for that. :c

IDK why no one around here wants monogamous long-term stuff anymore. It's either polyamorous, demiromantic, or hook-ups. My best friend had to do long distance with her boyfriend at first just because of how incompatible the people around here were.

Is it like this where you guys are? Is it different for straight people?

NYC was obnoxious. I’ve had several long term relationships, but a lot of people thought it was really obnoxious or bad to have feelings. I had several times where I’d hook up with someone, once or twice and then get ghosted. A lot of people these days want to act like it’s wrong or “weak” to desire that. I still had a lot of great girlfriends and lots of sex so I shouldn’t complain.

But remember if you want something, there’s someone else that wants the same thing. Just keep searching.

[GodzillaFreak99]

I'm currently single. I thought I use to have a massive crush on this girl back in high school. Unfortunately, she made it clear that she didn't share my feelings. Now, I got the message, but for whatever reason she still felt the need to remind me several times afterward for whatever reason. (much to my irritation) We did remain friends for a long time after that however but, hse hardly ever bothered to contact me and would rarely return my calls.

One day, she called me out of the blue and during our conversation, the topic of my feelings for her came up, and...shockingly she said she felt the same. She even came to my current home town and we went out to eat together. Then...I didn't hear back from her in over a year...A YEAR?! Not for lack of me trying to contact her either. So then, she calls me again out of the blew, and during our conversation, she said that she only liked me as a friend. I mean...it's like, Woman! Will you make up your damn mind?! (I didn't say that to her face however) It was at that point that I realized she just wasn't good for, and I cut her out of my life.

So yeah...uhh...There ya go.

You did the right thing. You deserve someone better, who doesnt play games with you. I'm shocked you didn't cut her off sooner.

Yeah, looking back I probably should've cut her out the moment she decided to rub salt in the wounds (so to speak)

Listen to Destoroyah, take care of yourself first, man. You can and will be used by people for therapy if you allow yourself to. Be strong, be selfish. Not everyone has your best intentions in mind even if you have theirs. I've learned this the hard way twice now, don't be like me.

Yeah, you're right. Thanks for the words of encouragement y'all.

[AllosaurHell]

Still single, despite not having ended up with the girl I liked, we are currently doing great as friends and since we only met a few months ago, it's best we stay as friends for the mean time because I may have screwed up by asking her out too soon.

[Fish Cakes]

Still single, despite not having ended up with the girl I liked, we are currently doing great as friends and since we only met a few months ago, it's best we stay as friends for the mean time because I may have screwed up by asking her out too soon.

If she wasn't interested in you then, it's doubtful she's going to become interested in you. Friends are great, don't expect it to go anywhere ever though, be prepared for her inevitable boyfriend who isn't you.

[AllosaurHell]

Still single, despite not having ended up with the girl I liked, we are currently doing great as friends and since we only met a few months ago, it's best we stay as friends for the mean time because I may have screwed up by asking her out too soon.

If she wasn't interested in you then, it's doubtful she's going to become interested in you. Friends are great, don't expect it to go anywhere ever though, be prepared for her inevitable boyfriend who isn't you.

I've already mentioned a month ago that she has a "boyfriend" but she recently stated the situation is "confusing" so right now I mostly decided that friendship is better and I'll wait for the right one to come in my life, whether it be her in the not too distant future if something were to happen or someone even better. Basically, I wasted the month of November over nothing because I kept having conniptions over something that really turned out to not be so serious.

[Fish Cakes]

I've already mentioned a month ago that she has a "boyfriend" but she recently stated the situation is "confusing" so right now I mostly decided that friendship is better and I'll wait for the right one to come in my life, whether it be her in the not too distant future if something were to happen or someone even better. Basically, I wasted the month of November over nothing because I kept having conniptions over something that really turned out to not be so serious.

Oh okay then.

Lately people around me have been accepting themselves dying alone and shit, being fine with just platonic love, all that stuff I just can't accept for myself. Yet that's the recurring theme of my nightmares, the constant dread of my subconscious. I'll look around one day, everyone who was once there will be gone, I'll be lost.

[master_of_monsters]

How does one convey non-hostile intentions to a female when one looks like something that would look natural in a Bram Stoker novel with a smile that looks like pennywise's, plus is terrible at communicating?

[Fish Cakes]

How does one convey non-hostile intentions to a female when one looks like something that would look natural in a Bram Stoker novel with a smile that looks like pennywise's, plus is terrible at communicating?

IDK, can start by not referring to women as "females", always seems so dehumanizing to me.

Girl I like told me she thinks I'm cute today, still blushing.

[master_of_monsters]

How does one convey non-hostile intentions to a female when one looks like something that would look natural in a Bram Stoker novel with a smile that looks like pennywise's, plus is terrible at communicating?

IDK, can start by not referring to women as "females", always seems so dehumanizing to me.

Girl I like told me she thinks I'm cute today, still blushing.

I don't normally, I just did for this instance because reasons

[Destoroyah of Worlds]

How does one convey non-hostile intentions to a female when one looks like something that would look natural in a Bram Stoker novel with a smile that looks like pennywise's, plus is terrible at communicating?

IDK, can start by not referring to women as "females", always seems so dehumanizing to me.

Girl I like told me she thinks I'm cute today, still blushing.

Did you flirt back?

[Breakdown]

Single and not ready to mingle My last relationship was a year and a half ago and frankly, I'm probably not going to look for another one for a while. After some introspection, I don't feel like I'm at the level I need to be to have a successful and fufilling relationship. To that end, I've decided to focus my energy on myself, my goals and enjoying the freedom I have. There was a time when I was younger where I lamented being single, but as an adult I kind of just live my life and not worry about it lol. I learned that my self worth isn't and never will be tied to my relationship status, and it will never make me less of a man.

Hopefully these will be words of encouragement to some based off my own personal experiences.

[Fish Cakes]

Did you flirt back?

I still don't know how to flirt? Just told her I thought she was too. I typically just tell people my feelings up-front. She's an online friend, pretty sure it was more a honest compliment than anything. Regardless, it made me incredibly happy and gave me lots of hope for a relationship in my future (not her specifically, but in general.) It's really refreshing to have a cisgirl find me attractive, I don't think anyone else here would really understand that though?