FlawedCoil82 wrote:Haha, sorry about that. Once I get on a roll though, it's hard to stop. It's something that has deeply frustrated me for several years now and I had to release some of it.
It's all good dude, I just think of a good joke sometimes, and feel like posting it...that and I like to see my avatar.
Seriously though, my whole philosophy on women that I've developed over the course of my life can be boiled down to one simple word: confidence. Confidence in one's self, to be specific. Once you're happy with you are, truly and honestly happy with the human being you have become, women will become much more interested in you. Think of it like this; if YOU don't think you're a hot commodity, how can you expect anyone else to?
The reason women always go for the "jerks" is because generally, they're more confident then the nice guys of the world. Ever wonder why a woman keeps going after the guy that treats her like dirt while you continue to pine for her?
Because the jerk doesn't need her, and he knows it. He's self-reliant enough to simply not care if she pursues him or not. The nice guy? She knows she's got him on lock-down. She could snap her fingers, and he'll drop whatever he's doing to be with her.
Where's the fun in that?
She wants the jerk because the jerk is a challenge. He's emotionally closed, she has to work like the damned blazes to get him to open up. And when he finally opens up after 2 1/2 hours of prodding and tells her his age, she feels like she's accomplished something.
The nice guy comes pre-assembled right out of the box, ready to go. No fuss, no muss...no fun. Yes, as weird as this shit sounds, women enjoy the challenge of the jerk.
So, the immediate solution to this...is to become a jerk. Next time she asks you for a favor...don't give her one, unless it has some kind of benefit for you. Is she fishing for compliments? Ignore her. She's hot enough to start bar fights, and yet she laments about all the negative aspects of her looks. Well, next time she does this...agree with her! Just to get her attention. Then let her know how annoying it is to listen to her drivel on and on about how ugly she thinks she is when so many guys want to bang her.
Quick addendum to this: If the woman in question has already cast you into that firey pit of despair known as the Friend Zone...don't bother with the jerk stuff. At least not full on. I still suggest not doing favors unless they benefit you. Really that's something you should apply to everyone in your life outside your closest friends and family. And this jerk thing is for getting pussy. If you want a real relationship with a woman, a lasting one, it's best to wait until you're truly happy with yourself before you go looking for love.
So, that's my take.