Ya know what I saw this thread, I just had to pitch in my two cents. I have had trouble getting a girlfriend in recent past. Actually, the only ones I have ever gotten are the psycho's (not the good psycho's either -- the ones that flip like a switch ones).
My longest relationship was for 5 years, she was a child hood sweety, asked her out 10 years later, had a good first 2 years, middle was on the rocks, and last year and a half was a nightmare. We never had sex. Not once. Why? Because I respected her, I loved her, and I wouldn't force her against her will. I don't believe in rape and/or hitting women to prove a point, it's not how I was raised, and I'm not like that at all. After her, I haven't had too much luck with women.
I have had:
-Girls who want it their way or no way.
-The ones that take things WAYYY out of context.
You name it. I've had it.
Now, I'm not trying to sound arrogant or anything, but deep down I do believe I am a "woman's everything". I'm the type of guy that would go the distance for ONE special girl and love her like no other. But, when it comes to me.. all girls want nowadays are assholes. I mean really, what can be defined as "asshole" nowadays? But, personally, I think that is just an excuse.. most just want hot men. Me on the other hand, i'm no Brad Pitt or "Edward Cullen" **shivers down my spine** but I am not the ugliest. I am a pretty handsome guy, pretty average, down to earth. Yet, I'm always over looked and ignored and never given a chance to be seen and to shine.
The reason I don't think I can get a girlfriend and/or a girl to even talk to me is because.... either my looks, i'm very open and I tell it like it is, I never sugar coat anything, because I am not in middle school or high school anymore where I have to hide my emotions. I'm an adult. Girls say "oh, we want the real deal, we don't want cheaters, etc etc" yet here I am, and I am always ignored. Here are a few excuses I have heard in the past from women:
"You're cool and everything, but you love horror movies, etc.. we can be friends." -- she never talked to me again.
"We have to break up because I don't feel beautiful enough to be with you, even if you mean it" "How come you're adding celebrities on your facebook/myspace page? are you gonna talk to them? *in a cheating way or something*" -- she was a psycho and I wanted her out of my life.
"I'm gonna take you shopping to change your clothing style." -- after arguing with her by asking WHY? for the entire conversation, I just got frustrated and told her she can't change me, another one out the door.
"Yeah we can be friends, you're really cool." -- the next day she ended up deleting me off facebook/myspace and when I text'd her just by saying hi, she responds "who is this?"
Yeah. I haven't have any good experiences with women. And this is the thing, I will NOT change for women. I will NOT change for ANYBODY. I can only change for myself. I will NOT give up my hobbies just for a girl. It's either you take me or you leave me. Your choice. I honestly can live without a woman, although it'd be nice to have someone to cuddle up next to and have sex, but in the end (for me at least), it's always a disappointment. Something ALWAYS happens. So I say, I can live without a woman because I have the things in my life to make me happy (my friends, my hobbies, my money, and my animals).
Ok, sorry for ranting, I just had to get that off my chest.
"The only sensible way to live in this world is WITHOUT rules."