That's great to hear, and it's stories like those that restore my faith in long distance relationships.
For me, however, I don't think I'll be buying a ring anytime soon.... heck or even flowers! Throughout high school, I've tried to ask girls out, and in the end it ALWAYS never ended well. The last time I had a girlfriend was back in the 8th grade... and I don't think that legitimately counts! Now that I'm in college, my priorities have somewhat shifted. Sure I could date and have a fun time, but I'd rather do my best on my school work and just enjoy my hobbies. There are times that I often think about how life would be for me if I did put the time and effort into a relationship, and eventually settle down with the woman I would hope to one day marry. It's a nice thought, and something to look forward to. But, I'm just tired of chasing after girls who don't feel the same way about me as I feel about them. I just want a break to look at myself and learn from past mistakes. Hopefully, I will be able to identify the girl that I would be compatible with.
For example: During my senior year of high school, I met this girl - let's call her Elisa. Elisa was new, and my parents invited her family over for lunch one day where I met her for the first time. We definitely bonded quickly, and it was overwhelming for me because she was a gorgeous girl and I was... well, me. Our friendship grew over the following months, but when she began dating other guys, I became quite jealous and realized that I actually liked her in a more romantic sense rather than just friendship. Despite her dating other guys, she and I still enjoyed spending time with one another - and sure, I innocently flirted with her. After a couple of years knowing her, I sincerely thought that she was the girl I was destined to be with... yes I believe in destiny, what of it? However, last Christmas....
I came home last December. Prior to that, Elisa and I were chatting nonstop on Facebook, and earlier than that, I have already revealed my feelings for her. So imagine yourself coming home for the holidays to a girl that you've fallen in love with, only to find out that she began dating someone else! Apparently she ended our so-called long distance relationship without even telling me. How unfaithful was that? For the rest of my time back home I resented her, and her boyfriend - who we shall call Peter. I flew back to Guam in relief.
It did not take me long to get over Elisa. Heck, for the last several months we hardly spoke to one another online. I knew that even our friendship was dying. Now, we're up to last month. I came home without a care in the world for Elisa. Heck, once I eventually saw her I was nice to her, gave her a graduation present and such. My prior feelings for Elisa were completely gone, and I no longer resented her, nor Peter, for it. I accepted the outcome for what it was. After she left for Virginia earlier this month, I knew for a fact that I was never going to see her again.
That's the tragedy. I develop a close bond with a girl and accept her as a special part of my life and a close friend. Then once I start developing feelings for her, it's too late - she's with someone else, albeit a dud, but still. Now we hardly talk and I may never see her again. In the end, the thing I took away was a valuable lesson. You see, I like to think that paths are mean't to be crossed. With each girl that crosses my path, I take away a lesson - with Elisa, it was getting to truly know her. Besides the fact that she began dating someone else before I knew about it, there were other things about her that turned me off - but I won't dive into that.
Point is, that Elisa was just a lesson that I needed to learn. I fell for her, and that was a mistake, a mistake that I do not intend to make again. I just hope that one day, I'll cross paths with a girl that I'd like to walk with for a while, or even for the rest of my life. Who knows. Until then, I like to walk my path solo!