I apologize in advance if there is already a thread about this...
Anyways, I thought it would be interesting to set up a Dating / Relationship Advice thread where members could share tips on the whole dating game.
I for one haven't been in a relationship since the 8th grade, so I am in need of some serious advice. For years I have had my fair share of crushes on girls. Then there were times when girls had crushes on me (and I mean real good looking girls) and I was too oblivious to notice until it was too late and they were with someone else. More recently I wanted to tell a girl who I've known for three years (who is also a close friend of mine too) how I really felt, but after being around her constantly for a month, I realized that she isn't the person who I thought she was and got over her real fast.
At the moment, I really don't know what I want. Sure being single is fun and all - I get to be myself, and not worry about the responsibility of a relationship. However there is a side to me that really wants that. There are times when I would look at girls that I know and imagine how things would end up if we ever got together. It's got to the point that even I regret not hooking up with the girl who stalked me throughout my senior year of high school - now that's messed up.
Seeing all my friends in college getting themselves into relationships really made me take a look at myself and ask what I could do to make myself good boyfriend material. My first relationship was totally screwed up by me (even though my Ex says it's her). I was inattentive, and acted more of a friend to her than a boyfriend. I was intimidated by intimacy back then. I had no clue whatsoever what to do or how fast or slow to go. Instead of working things out, she dumped me and broke my heart.
Since then I have kind of been afraid to actually ask girls out or tell them how I feel. I fear rejection. It sucks. I try to man up and not think too much of it, but at the last minute I freeze and walk away.
Anyways, what I want to ask is, how can I get over this god forsaken fear of rejection and straight up ask girls out or tell them how I feel about them?