PopInPicsPresents wrote:It's just hitting me that my best friend is going into the military next summer. She wants to go into the Marines for whatever goddamn reason and I'm stressing over it. I know I can't stop her from doing what she wants. I'm worried she'll get hurt by either some landmine or her fellow marines. She told me someone called her up from the military telling her that basically if she got raped, or beaten by a higher officer or whoever she wouldn't be able to do anything about it. She also told me since she's Cape Verdian she'll most likely be sent over seas. I don't know how I'm going to cope without her by my side for whatever amount of time she's gone.
She can actually do something about getting raped. It'd be one of the hugest insurrections against the military if she got steam behind it, but it'd be one hell of a show.
Pop, here's my advice to you: Love your friend, care for your friend, and support* her life choices. People have their own lives and they have to deal with the consequences of their actions. And if bad things happen, be there to pick up the pieces.
And as for the "not being by my side" things...Um, man up and deal with it. It is a harsh thing to say, but its one of the few things you can do. I've lost plenty of love people for both a short time and for the rest of my life. It is a major part of life.
* Support the choices that aren't blatantly stupid. One of my best friends, Dave, decided to drive drunk. I didn't like it but I couldn't stop him (I didn't know he did it until ex posto facto)....so, yeah.