Stuckey's "How to get the girl"

[HeiseiGodzilla117]

Looks like I may have got the girl without even trying.
She asked me if I wanted to sit next to her when we watch this movie in class. So I sat next to her and one of her freinds told me to go out with her. They said she would say yes because the read it in her book (I'm assuming her diary). So I guess I'll ask her out soon then.....
I'M SO NERVOUS

(This is the same girl I mentioned before BTW)

If you've gotten to know her pretty well without becoming close friends, now is a good time to do it, man.

[SaiyanRider54]

Looks like I may have got the girl without even trying.
She asked me if I wanted to sit next to her when we watch this movie in class. So I sat next to her and one of her freinds told me to go out with her. They said she would say yes because the read it in her book (I'm assuming her diary). So I guess I'll ask her out soon then.....
I'M SO NERVOUS

(This is the same girl I mentioned before BTW)

If you've gotten to know her pretty well without becoming close friends, now is a good time to do it, man.

I'm going to wait a little while and get to know her better. She seems like a nice girl though.

[Dash 7]

Well she broke it off because of her mom allegedly....


FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU

You need to stop dating girls.

Start dating women huh?

When I turn 21 we'll see bout that.

[Grayshot954]

(Thanks)

[HeiseiGodzilla117]

I was in that exact situation all throughout highschool, Grayshot. If you want my advice: Move on. It's the best thing you can do. Start talking to other girls and you'll stop thinking about her. I was in immense pain over a silly crush and it robbed me of my time and because of it I didn't take up offers I had from other girls who were really sweet and cute. Now they've all moved away, so I screwed myself over. You can't stay hung up on one girl, especially if you aren't even dating her. If the opportunity arises, you might try it. But don't stay so focused on her. It's REALLY not healthy. Just take some other girls out on a date for fun. You don't have to necessarily like them, but it will definitely take your mind off of it.

[TokyoVigilante]

What HG117 said is the truth. It's also not worth risking your sadness about a little relationship make you resentful or bitter and spoil a friendship. I've been in similar positions before and ultimately us being friends was more rewarding in the long term then if we dated.

[Tim85]

While I do agree with what has been said, it's hard. Take it from me, you will get over it. It may take some time but only when YOU'RE ready. I'm sick of people who just say move on, get over it like you should automatically. Eventually you'll just get sick of being upset and in a funk and you'll snap out of it. Believe me, it's something I've done A LOT. In fact right now, I'm still a little disappointed that it didn't work out with my hairdresser but I'm so pissed about being lied to by a woman AGAIN that I've quickly gotten over that.
The next thing you'll know, you'll be flirting with someone and that'll give a boost of confidence, trust me.

[Crocodile]

My heart sank. I literally entered a sadness I hadn't felt since my dads unexpected death. After a week in this state, I brought myself together with the notion I could wait. So that is what I did to this day. So we have hung out multiple times, and I have subsided my feelings so she wouldn't know. I trickertreated with her on Halloween, gave her a custom Christmas card and other things. I still message her, still get her a Skybar (Which I get basically free where I used to work) whenever I hear she is facing a rough time. (Her favorite candy bar). Send her my finished KWC matches to read (Which she enjoys unlike Titano ). She noted I was pretty much her best friend and I hang our with her more than any other her other friends. Now I have on mutiple instances tried to put it behind me, talk to girls at my college. Tried to find someone else but every time I find myself falling for her again every time I see her. So now Stuckey you know my situation. Any advice?

You sound like me a little while ago. My advice? Drop her like a bad habit.

[wataru]

Yup HG's situation is why I dont keep platonic female friends, or believe men and women can truely be platonic friends.

[Goji]

True heartache is one of the worst feelings anyone can feel, and moving on from such a thing doesn't happen overnight. When people tell you that " you gotta just get over it man", it's almost condescending, especially if said person has never experienced what you're going through. Seriously, these things take time.

My solution to remedy a similar situation from a while back, was to force myself to go out with other girls (whether they be potential love interests, or just a friend). You may be bitter about things for a while, and may even ignore advances from other girls, but that fades in time. (Of course, everyone's mileage will vary).

As for "dropping" girls that reject you? It's for the best, but I'd be lying if I said it's something I've actually done myself. It's a lot harder than it seems.

[Hellspawn28]

It's hard to get over a person if you really had feeling for her. It took me over a year to get over it and I remember I try to look for other people that there is no one that I really like.

[Goji]

Well...not to sound rude, but it's even harder when you were actually intimate with that person. Having a thing for someone that went nowhere is much, much easier to get over than someone who you actually had a connection with (no pun intended) for a short time.

[HikizuruBeat]

Yup HG's situation is why I dont keep platonic female friends, or believe men and women can truely be platonic friends.

I have more male friends than female friends.

[Crocodile]

As for "dropping" girls that reject you? It's for the best, but I'd be lying if I said it's something I've actually done myself. It's a lot harder than it seems.

This is gonna sound odd, but it honestly it varies depending on the two. Despite the fact Kristi and I were pretty open, and intimate she treated me poorly. I was only ever worth her time when it was convenient for her, and god help if I caught her on a bad day. But the second she needed something, I was expected to rush to her. I was just too lovestruck (or stupid, could be either or) to see that until I just decided I wasn't gonna entertain her anymore.

Now, I don't know what you've been through, maybe you had more favorable and understanding women in your life. I honestly hope you have. Maybe it could work for you, and that's great. I'd had enough though, it wasn't worth the heartache. So I let her go.


Speaking honestly, that was a 1000% improvement in my mood. Hard as it was, much as it hurt at the time. I'd do it again. Without a second thought.

[Hellspawn28]

Yup HG's situation is why I dont keep platonic female friends, or believe men and women can truely be platonic friends.

I have more male friends than female friends.

I guess most of them view you as a love interest? I remember one girl that I knew had most of her male friends view her as a love interest and ask her out several times.

[Crocodile]

Yup HG's situation is why I dont keep platonic female friends, or believe men and women can truely be platonic friends.

I have more male friends than female friends.

I guess most of them view you as a love interest? I remember one girl that I knew had most of her male friends view her as a love interest and ask her out several times.

Well in fairness to them, sometimes it's hard to discern a genuine affinity, from you just being horny, and them just being there.

[Jomei]

Yup HG's situation is why I dont keep platonic female friends, or believe men and women can truely be platonic friends.

I think they can be, given at least one of two qualifications.

1) Neither finds the other attractive or their "leagues" are so disparate that neither sees the other as even a hypothetical possibility

2) One or both of them are already happily with someone else

[HikizuruBeat]

Yup HG's situation is why I dont keep platonic female friends, or believe men and women can truely be platonic friends.

I have more male friends than female friends.

I guess most of them view you as a love interest? I remember one girl that I knew had most of her male friends view her as a love interest and ask her out several times.

No...
They like me just as a friend/have a significant other.

Guys are stupid if they try to be friends with a girl just to get in their pants.
They just baww they're in the friendzone.

[HeiseiGodzilla117]

I'm with HB on this one. It is possible for males and females to just be friends. I have plenty of female friends and they don't view me as a love interest nor do I view them as such.

[HikizuruBeat]

Exactly nothing wrong with being friends with opposite sex. What if you have same interests and just talk about that stuff with them.
Thinking it's impossible is a bit sexist imo.