Stuckey's "How to get the girl"

[King Caesar]

King Caesar wrote:
Okay one extra thing...is it bad that me and my ex-girlfriend still confide and tell secrets to each other and text on a regular basis?


Not really. Depends. Are you guys trying to do the "friends" thing, or are you still into each other?

No, not that I'm aware of. I'd be willing to, but that's not important. She's a friend, and that's how I'll keep it. Now I just need another girlfriend to get my mind off of her...

[KaneLocke]

Okay one extra thing...is it bad that me and my ex-girlfriend still confide and tell secrets to each other and text on a regular basis?

My ex -who ripped my heart out at the tender age of just 14- and I still chat over Yahoo regularly.

Exes are exes for a reason, but that doesn't mean you have to hate each other. Just don't try to do the romantic thing again.

[King Caesar]

As far as I know, the only reason we broke up was because we lived so damn far away (45 minutes). Seven months of that was just wearing on both of us. So I doubt there will be any sorta romance stuff anytime soon.

[Goji]

King Caesar wrote:
Okay one extra thing...is it bad that me and my ex-girlfriend still confide and tell secrets to each other and text on a regular basis?


Not really. Depends. Are you guys trying to do the "friends" thing, or are you still into each other?

No, not that I'm aware of. I'd be willing to, but that's not important. She's a friend, and that's how I'll keep it. Now I just need another girlfriend to get my mind off of her...

I know the feeling. Just..don't get too caught in your feelings man. Keep looking for someone else, because that honestly is the best way to get your mind of an ex gf/fling/whatever it may be.

It's a shame you two lived so "far" apart. If you have a driver's license, 45 minutes is nothing.

[kikomia]

King Caesar wrote:
Okay one extra thing...is it bad that me and my ex-girlfriend still confide and tell secrets to each other and text on a regular basis?


Not really. Depends. Are you guys trying to do the "friends" thing, or are you still into each other?

No, not that I'm aware of. I'd be willing to, but that's not important. She's a friend, and that's how I'll keep it. Now I just need another girlfriend to get my mind off of her...

I know the feeling. Just..don't get too caught in your feelings man. Keep looking for someone else, because that honestly is the best way to get your mind of an ex gf/fling/whatever it may be.

It's a shame you two lived so "far" apart. If you have a driver's license, 45 minutes is nothing.

45 minutes is still 45 minutes even with a car.

[Goji]

And? That's really not that far at all dude. Do you even drive?

[wataru]

My drive to work is 45 minutes...

Why dont yall try TWO. skreeonk. HOURS. one way?

I had a girlfriend in Ft Pierce and one in Palm Bay (north of Tampa).

[kikomia]

And? That's really not that far at all dude. Do you even drive?

Yes!!!!

[Goji]

Well then, good sir, you should understand. Unless of course, you drive like an old lady.

[kikomia]

Well then, good sir, you should understand. Unless of course, you drive like an old lady.

Who you calling old

[Goji]

This chick in my class (who's engaged, in case anyone missed that) is still sending me mixed signals...it's really kind of skreeonk with me. Do I flirt back, or act more reserved? I'm really not sure how to handle this.

[tymon]

^Ignore her flirting. She's engaged, bro.

[Goji]

I know man..but problem is, she's actually pretty awesome, and I would like there to a friendship there, if anything. She's also in one of my classes, so she'll be around all semester. I just need to watch my feelings I guess. I've already gone through hell this year as it is.

[Tim85]

I'm having a strange situation. If you've read the made your day thread last night you know but for the uninformed:

I ran into a girl I went to high school with at the grocery store yesterday. While I was talking to her she said that she was divorced and with one child and I think she said she was pregnant because I'm not sure if she was talking about the first one or she is right now. I didn't ask any further if she's with the father or not if she was pregnant. If she isn't with the father and she does have one on the way: I'm not sure if I should ask her out. She's been on my mind since I ran into her and I did have a little crush on her when I was little younger. And she's one of the few people I went to high school with that I don't have a grudge against because she was always nice to me.

I know this is a strange situation for sure, but I'm not sure if I want to get involved with this. I'm afraid I might be getting into something that I'm not ready for.

I don't know what to do.

[TheSecondComing]

I'd say, Tim, that it depends on how comfortable you are with the idea of raising somebody else's kids. I know a couple of girls I wouldn't mind boinking, but they have kids and I'm not ready for that myself.

[Tim85]

I've thought about it. If I run into her again or I see her sister (she works at the bank I use), I'll ask if she's seeing anyone. If she isn't, I'll take a shot, if she is, no big deal, I"m not getting my hopes up ever again.

I realize that I'm 26 years old and I can't be too choosy but kids is something that is normally a "forget it" trait but for some reason I can overlook it this time. Maybe it's me just being nostalgic for the old days and it'll wear off in a day or two.

[ZillaMaster91]

I apologize in advance if there is already a thread about this...

Anyways, I thought it would be interesting to set up a Dating / Relationship Advice thread where members could share tips on the whole dating game.

I for one haven't been in a relationship since the 8th grade, so I am in need of some serious advice. For years I have had my fair share of crushes on girls. Then there were times when girls had crushes on me (and I mean real good looking girls) and I was too oblivious to notice until it was too late and they were with someone else. More recently I wanted to tell a girl who I've known for three years (who is also a close friend of mine too) how I really felt, but after being around her constantly for a month, I realized that she isn't the person who I thought she was and got over her real fast.

At the moment, I really don't know what I want. Sure being single is fun and all - I get to be myself, and not worry about the responsibility of a relationship. However there is a side to me that really wants that. There are times when I would look at girls that I know and imagine how things would end up if we ever got together. It's got to the point that even I regret not hooking up with the girl who stalked me throughout my senior year of high school - now that's messed up.

Seeing all my friends in college getting themselves into relationships really made me take a look at myself and ask what I could do to make myself good boyfriend material. My first relationship was totally screwed up by me (even though my Ex says it's her). I was inattentive, and acted more of a friend to her than a boyfriend. I was intimidated by intimacy back then. I had no clue whatsoever what to do or how fast or slow to go. Instead of working things out, she dumped me and broke my heart.

Since then I have kind of been afraid to actually ask girls out or tell them how I feel. I fear rejection. It sucks. I try to man up and not think too much of it, but at the last minute I freeze and walk away.

Anyways, what I want to ask is, how can I get over this god forsaken fear of rejection and straight up ask girls out or tell them how I feel about them?

[Hellspawn28]

Stuckey did a thread for this a while back and the last reply was in Steptember 2011. It's still pretty recent to post in.

viewtopic.php?f=14&t=442&hilit=girl

[wataru]

#1 - Don't date married people. NO MATTER WHAT they say, they're never going to leave their spouse.

#2 - Don't date your best friend.

#3 - Always use protection.

#4 - Never go dutch. Pay for the date. (male members)

[Legionmaster]

#4 - Never go dutch. Pay for the date. (male members)

This is sexist. Pay at first, but Dutch it up later.