Stuckey's "How to get the girl"

[zilla103192]

For the record. It is possible to be JUST friends with the opposite sex.

until recent (literally up until last week). I was the ONLY male server at my job. EVERYONE else was a female. And I am friends with almost all of them. The ones I am not, are just because we don't get along that well.

Hell, the one cook is one of my BEST FRIENDS. We talk about everything under the sun. And I have NEVER been attracted to her sexually.

She is very pretty. But I care for her as what she is, a best friend.

[HikizuruBeat]

Wataru must have really shitty relationships then...

Ive had good ones and bad ones. My real 'serious' ones are leaning more towards the bad side. I also have high standards, and they work against me.

EDIT:
And Jomei, I read all the words. Both your points are meaningless. I dont understand how to you try to come off as so progressive in some topics, but so naive in this one..

How are his points meaningless? Sometimes two people people like each other just as friends and don't find each other attractive. Nothing to do with ugly or not. Also two people can be friends when they're both already in relationships. You know loyalty and what not.

[Stuckey]

Jomei, lay off wataru.
Wataru, read all the words next time.

[Orgasmatron]

a lot of my friends are female, my neighbor who i grew up with is a year older than me and she's one of my best friends

[JVM]

Some people can be friends with the opposite sex, some can't. That's how I look at it.

I don't think I could manage it in reality, even if there was a girl who was really willing to put up with me (there isn't right now, but I don't think I need to say that.) Of course, my physical appearance has played a huge part in girls' perception of me and I'm not expecting anyone to look past it at THIS stage in my life. (Maybe later on? Possibly. High School? Hell to the no.)

[King Caesar]

So, I asked that one chick out, and she said no. Now I'm back on the prowl. But follow me here...I was texting with my ex-girlfriend (first ex, not the most recent), and we are going to see each other this Saturday. *shrug* It's just gonna be us, and neither of us are dating anyone. I'm not too sure how to take this...

[ZillaMaster91]

For me nowadays, it is easier to be friends with girls who I do not see as a romantic interest.

In the past I would develop feelings for a girl, and then become her friend. Usually after I admit my feelings and get rejected, or discover that they are not the kind of person that I'd ultimately want to be dating, it's kind of hard to maintain communication and a certain level of friendship afterwards. It's a shame, because that's how I lose close friends sometimes.

[bearijuana]

If anyone wants bearijuana's "How to get the cousin", just ask away, I'm all ears.

[Goji]

Dude..I'm sorry, but you just seem awfully excited about all of this, and I think it's time you drop it.. I think there are very, very few people in these parts that want "tips" about how to pick up their cousins for a night on the town. I think the guys here that have trouble talking to women would prefer ones that they're, you know, not related to. Just saying.

[Spirit Ghidorah 2010]

Dude..I'm sorry, but you just seem awfully excited about all of this, and I think it's time you drop it.. I think there are very, very few people in these parts that want "tips" about how to pick up their cousins for a night on the town. I think the guys here that have trouble talking to women would prefer ones that they're, you know, not related to. Just saying.

Unless they're from Alabama.

[bearijuana]

Dude..I'm sorry, but you just seem awfully excited about all of this, and I think it's time you drop it.. I think there are very, very few people in these parts that want "tips" about how to pick up their cousins for a night on the town. I think the guys here that have trouble talking to women would prefer ones that they're, you know, not related to. Just saying.

I'm sorry dude. I was just putting it out there, mah bad.

[TheSecondComing]

For the record. It is possible to be JUST friends with the opposite sex.

until recent (literally up until last week). I was the ONLY male server at my job. EVERYONE else was a female. And I am friends with almost all of them. The ones I am not, are just because we don't get along that well.

Hell, the one cook is one of my BEST FRIENDS. We talk about everything under the sun. And I have NEVER been attracted to her sexually.

She is very pretty. But I care for her as what she is, a best friend.

1,000,000% concur. Pretty much all of my close friends are ladies as well. I don't know how the myth of guys and girls can't be friends came about, but whoever it was mistook their own lack of social skills and misconstrued it as a gender-wide "fact."

[Tyler]

Unless they're from Alabama.

Hey only I can do from-the-South jokes.

[King Caesar]

Well, I saw my ex-girlfriend tonight. We watched a movie, played Call of Duty, went to get some ice cream together, and then we came back home. I started to mess with her a little bit, tickled her sides (guys, if you want to get in close...tickle), and she was in my arms. Next thing I know we were kissing and she was on top of me. We were both surprised by the sudden turn of events, but we both liked it. We're probably getting back together.

[yaburu]

Allll right. So, up until now, I haven't asked any questions here, for the simple reason that...well, I never had to "Get the girl" before. I HAD the girl.

But as many of you know, that's no longer the case. My wife and I both agree it's time for me to start finding someone to connect with. She herself has started a sexual relationship with some douchebag, and I've created a profile on OKcupid.

I've been on there a month, and am having regular conversations with three different woman.

#1 lives just a few miles away from me, and is very attractive. We seem to have a good amount in common, though it's hard for me to tell if she's really into me, as I'm more interested in short-term dating while she's into long-term.

#2 also lives close, though not as close as #1. We have some pretty good conversation, and she's looking for short-term dating like me. Problem with her is I don't find her attractive. At all.

#3 is so skreeonk hot I want to find every man and woman she's been with sexually and punch them in the face just because they got to be with her. She lives about 30 miles away from me though. We still have quite a bit in common and had a pretty good chat the other night, and she finds me attractive enough to rate me 4 or 5 stars on a 5 star scale.

So, advice I want is; which of these bachelorettes do I pursue the most? And...how? See, I've only been in one relationship, and only been with one woman. We really didn't "date" and I didn't court her in the classic sense. And all that was 8 years ago.

I have no frickin' clue how to let a woman know that I'm really into her in a way that it doesn't come off as desperate and/or creepy.

[Gorosaurus Rex]

I'd say three, if she's really into you and you into her you can probably make the distance work.

As for Caesar, stay careful. That type of stuff can go wrong real fast.

[Spirit Ghidorah 2010]

If 30 miles isn't a big issue for you (and I give props to you if that's the case, since I have trouble keeping with chicks who aren't even in my same major, yet alone my local area), then totally go for #3.

If distance is an issue, stick with #1, but keep at arm's reach until you can say for sure whether she's into you or not. As for long-term/short-term discrepancy, one or both of you is gonna need to meet the other halfway. Relationships involve compromise.

[HeiseiGodzilla117]

I'm in a similar situation as yabs (only where distance is concerned). One of my friends got me talking with one of her friends that she goes to school with. Been talking to her fairly regularly over facebook and she's really cool. We've been hitting it off really well and we both kinda like eachother. However, she's about an hour drive away from me (assuming congested traffic on the interstate). That's not really a problem for me, but I don't know about her. Anybody have experience with a girl who lived about an hour away? If so, how did it work out?

[Hellspawn28]

A hour away does not seem that bad since I know people who date other people from other states. People have told me try dating people from other states but I never like the idea of long distance relationships. If you are going to date someone from the other side of the US then you are going to see them at least once or maybe twice a year. I like would like to date someone close near by me and that I could see them at least more then once a week.

[wataru]

What's the difference in short term and long term dating?

Back in my day it was:
skreeonk Buddy
Friend w/Benefits
or
Dating in hopes of an LTR.