The sex thread. [Suggestive Themes, Rec. 18+]

[DaikaijuSokogeki!]

I haven't had it, but it hasn't been out of choice. I had a girlfriend earlier this year with an intense sex drive, and I was planning on doing it with her. But the day I planned on heading to her house and have sex with her, she found she was pregnant with her ex's baby and broke the relationship off. So yeah, my luck with sex blows.

But anyways, I'll go ahead and take this time to ask for advice and get this topic on course. Plus if one guy starts to ask questions, then maybe some more people will grow the balls (pun intended) to ask bona fide questions instead of saying "hurr hurr sechs iz funneh".

Seeing as how I've never had sex, how can I train myself from having a premature ejaculation when the time does come? I definitely don't want to disappoint my partner, so how can I prevent that from happening?

[Living Corpse]

I haven't had it, but it hasn't been out of choice. I had a girlfriend earlier this year with an intense sex drive, and I was planning on doing it with her. But the day I planned on heading to her house and have sex with her, she found she was pregnant with her ex's baby and broke the relationship off. So yeah, my luck with sex blows.

But anyways, I'll go ahead and take this time to ask for advice and get this topic on course. Plus if one guy starts to ask questions, then maybe some more people will grow the balls (pun intended) to ask bona fide questions instead of saying "hurr hurr sechs iz funneh".

Seeing as how I've never had sex, how can I train myself from having a premature ejaculation when the time does come? I definitely don't want to disappoint my partner, so how can I prevent that from happening?

Look on the bright side. You might have dodged a bullet. What if it was YOUR baby she was carrying?

[Gigan X3]

Seeing as how I've never had sex, how can I train myself from having a premature ejaculation when the time does come? I definitely don't want to disappoint my partner, so how can I prevent that from happening?

One would say that you should masturbate and yeah, try seeing if you can last more than last time BUT, Since actual sex is on a whole different level, I guess, although it would ruin the moment, just don't focus.

[yaburu]

Seeing as how I've never had sex, how can I train myself from having a premature ejaculation when the time does come? I definitely don't want to disappoint my partner, so how can I prevent that from happening?

I actually wouldn't worry too much about that. For one, the condom will be on your side. This may come as a shock, but all those people who told you that condoms don't reduce the pleasure of sex...were lying! Yup. Condoms DO make sex less pleasurable. But that's okay, because they make up for that by containing the mess, and making you last longer. Also, keep in mind that you've been masturbating since, like 12 or 13. All those years have trained your dick to respond to a certain tightness and a certain stimulation and technique.

The vagina is a TOTALLY different path to orgasm then the hand. It's different on every level, and it's going to throw your dick for a loop. It did mine. In fact, I didn't even reach orgasm the first time I had sex, because I was so damn trained on my hand. It took three tries or so before I finally could. My best friend told me the same thing happened to him. Of course, he also had to piss like a racehorse the entire time he was having sex, but whatever.

Point is, don't worry too much about being a one-pump chump the first time you have sex. Chances are, you'll have the opposite problem.

I'd also like to touch on Fairy Mothra's post. She hit the nail on the head when she said sex is best with someone you love. Because that person isn't just looking out for them self, they care that you get off too. But more then that, they're familiar with what you like in bed, what you enjoy and what turns you off. One of the reasons my wife and I enjoy sex with each other so much is because we're both well aware of each other's likes and dislikes.

[Gigan X3]

I'd also like to touch on Fairy Mothra's post. She hit the nail on the head when she said sex is best with someone you love. Because that person isn't just looking out for them self, they care that you get off too. But more then that, they're familiar with what you like in bed, what you enjoy and what turns you off. One of the reasons my wife and I enjoy sex with each other so much is because we're both well aware of each other's likes and dislikes.

And talking/joking will very rarely kill the moment in this situation. Unless you're pretty delicate.

[Spirit Ghidorah 2010]

Seeing as how I've never had sex, how can I train myself from having a premature ejaculation when the time does come? I definitely don't want to disappoint my partner, so how can I prevent that from happening?

One would say that you should masturbate and yeah, try seeing if you can last more than last time BUT, Since actual sex is on a whole different level, I guess, although it would ruin the moment, just don't focus.

I could swear I read somewhere that masturbating actually makes sex last shorter....

[HayesAJones]

I could swear I read somewhere that masturbating actually makes sex last shorter....

I wonder what parent wrote that.

[Hellspawn28]

I'm the only person who is no rush to have sex in their life at the moment?

[Drewzilla]

I'm the only person who is no rush to have sex in their life at the moment?

Neither am I, I'm reminded of why when my 2 year old niece is in her usual destructave ways. I'm not ready to deal with that.

[Hellspawn28]

I'm 19 right now, and I'm in no rush to have sex. If I ever get a GF, I would want to take things slowly. I remember I had friends that want to have sex like the week after they start dating.

[KaneLocke]

I'm the only person who is no rush to have sex in their life at the moment?

Neither am I, I'm reminded of why when my 2 year old niece is in her usual destructave ways. I'm not ready to deal with that.

Just because you have sex doesn't mean you'll become a parent.

I'm not saying it's not a healthy opinion, since it means you'll be more careful. But it's also not good to look at it like sex automatically means parenthood.

[Hotrod93]

I'm 19 right now, and I'm in no rush to have sex. If I ever get a GF, I would want to take things slowly. I remember I had friends that want to have sex like the week after they start dating.

Same but mine keeps wanting to have sex with or without a condom. I said flatly NO condom no sex.

Honestly I kinda feel like the woman in a normal sex crazed guy relationship, she never just wants to hang out its always her wanting to get off. I mean I dont mind but I also want the "friend" in the girlfriend and I dont want our whole relationship to purely be based around sex.

Shes a huge gamer and anime fan like me and id love to invite her over to play and watch videos on the internet without having to worry about controlling her horniness and my parents busting us.

I know this sounds odd to most, but I also have to have mercy due to her sad past with past boyfriends and attacker.

[Tyler]

I'm not really in a rush either. I'm 18 and from my own experience girls are a little more aggresive than I am. Girls older than I am. That weird? I'd just like to wait until I have my own place. However long that takes.

[wataru]

I'm not really in a rush either. I'm 18 and from my own experience girls are a little more aggresive than I am. Girls older than I am. That weird? I'd just like to wait until I have my own place. However long that takes.

When I was 24 I was sleeping with a 43 year old & 50 year old lady (not at the same time). Recently I was with a 49 year old lady. So older isn't weird

[Tyler]

When I was 24 I was sleeping with a 43 year old & 50 year old lady (not at the same time). Recently I was with a 49 year old lady. So older isn't weird

Well, I haven't been getting looks from ladies that old, but it's something to get used to after high school where no chick paid attention to me.

[Starfishman]

I've never had any sex at all. I am saving sex til me & Jessica get married and I'm not finacally secure enough to support a kid yet.

[Tim85]

I'm a virgin but not by choice (at least not anymore). I did make a choice not to do it until I graduated high school. But I've never even gone out with a woman on a date to have the opportunity since then. I just don't feel right in jumping into bed with someone without at least a date. Maybe it's just me.

I also have no problem with going south of the border. If I would want the woman to go down on me, I should want to return the favor. And I can at least give her pleasure too in case I pop early. But right now, I'm not interested in her going down on me. Don't get me wrong, I would like it, but as I've told someone when we were on the subject: it's not the hole on her head I'm interested in, it's the hole between her legs is what I'm after. Everything else is just bonus.

I really can't decide what man I am. I'm equal opportunity I guess. If a woman has a nice face, rack, butt, or legs: I'll look at them. I'm not picky. But tattoos and piercings don't do a thing for me.

[bananaoil]

I'm married, but I have no children. Regardless, here's some insight and advice:

In most societies, once man created property, he wanted a way to maintain that property, so he subjugated woman with the intention of knowing for certain who his real offspring were so he could divide said property amongst them. As a result, women essentially became property themselves, hence the fact that, to this day, there's still a stigma about sexual promiscuity in women even though it's perfectly fine for men.

Thankfully, that view is slowly dying out. I'll admit that it's taking too long for women to be viewed as equal to men, but we're getting there, and improving humanity in the process.

Granted, this is a contributing factor to the decline of marriages and, conversely, explosive divorce rates. Frankly, marriage as we understand it will become completely obsolete soon. However, I can see some kind of social contract coming out of contemporary marriage, though, because marraige can and most often does help keep the population stable, and has the potential to be a good child raising tool.

But I digress.

Although marriage is misguided, it does have a point; responsability. If you don't have the resources to raise a child, you shouldn't have one in the first place, and hypothetically, you shouldn't get married until you have the resources to take care of your children to be.

So, for those of you who aren't interested in marriage and children, what are you to do? You still owe it to society to be responsible, which means, whether you have just one sexual partner or many (loyalty is admirable, and promiscuity is natural), use protection. Be smart about it. Prevent unwanted children and the spread of stds. Be smart. Be safe. Have fun.

I can tell you that sex with the same partner for an extended period of time can become tedious. Some people are perfectly happy with one sexual partner, while others would obviously like to experience sex with more than one person. This is because, like all animals, humans are ultimately driven to keep the species as genetically diverse as possible.

If you are in a long term relationship, or if you are married, don't feel bad about being attracted to someone other than your partner. It's perfectly natural. If you want to act on those desires, though, you need to discuss this with your partner. If you find out that your partner isn't comfortable with you wanting to have sex with other people, then perhaps you're with the wrong partner. You should be with someone who understands your sex drive.

Sure, sex isn't everything, but it's vital to a romantic relationship. Anyone who says otherwise has never been in a serious romantic relationship.

[wataru]

I find it hillarious (and Im not trying to make fun of anyone, really) that men are saying theyre not having sex by choice.

Sorry, gents, but if a woman was interested in you and gave the green light to get fleshy, you'd forget your "choice" and shag like there's no tomorrow.

[HeiseiGodzilla117]

Sorry, gents, but if a woman was interested in you and gave the green light to get fleshy, you'd forget your "choice" and shag like there's no tomorrow.

Agreed. I've been trying to lose my *ehem*.... virginity, for a while